You have little say in how you feel and how you will experience grief (but) you do have choices about how to deal with those feelings. ~ Kenneth Doka. Grief is a Journey: Finding your path through Loss Kenneth Doka, a respected grief counsellor and author, states repeatedly that feeling sad, missing the presence of … Read More
There are two emotions spoken about in the investment industry; fear and greed. Any investment professional will tell you real success lies in the ability not to let either emotion take control of your decision making. If they’re truthful, they’ll also tell you how trying to control these emotions is a constant battle. As a … Read More
In recent posts, I’ve covered issues widows face regarding being seen as an open wallet and how to wean adult children off of financial support in cases when they’re capable of being financially independent. Today, let’s look at those instances when there are legitimate reasons for lending money to your adult children. I won’t go … Read More
“It does not take much strength to do things, but it requires a great deal of strength to decide what to do.” ― Elbert Hubbard Popular wisdom states that we shouldn’t make important, life-changing, decisions during the first year after a major loss. Sometimes, however, doing so is impossible and decisions have to be made. Lean on … Read More
One of the most unfortunate financial consequences of widowhood is certain people will get the perception you now have extra money. They might think you have a lot of it (even if you don’t) and therefore think you are now a source of funds for their needs or wants. As a widow, you may be … Read More
When I worked as an investment advisor, one thing that I saw widows struggle with after their spouse or partner passed way, was the realization that now they were on their own. I don’t want to imply that the surviving spouse was helpless at managing the financial affairs. Not at all. In fact, with the majority … Read More
“Age teaches resignation; grief teaches itself to be, to just be, because it turns out that it can’t be outrun or forgotten.” — Sharon Butala (Where I Live Now: A Journey through Love and Loss to Healing and Hope) Often after a death or other loss, major decisions have to be made. Should I move? Should I … Read More
