“I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Return of the King
Not every grieving person cries but most, if not many do.
When we cry in someone’s presence, often our embarrassment prompts us to say, “sorry”. We say “sorry” as if we have reason to be ashamed for our sadness and expect punishment for showing ourselves to be vulnerable.
Some fear that tears show weakness. Some fear that once their tears start flowing, those tears will will be unstoppable.
But tears are, in fact, healing. Tears remove chemicals built up from stress. And, according to research, suppressing tears increases our stress levels. Tears release feelings and are cathartic. Not releasing those feelings stresses our nervous and cardiovascular systems.
When our heart is broken, we need to cry. No “sorry” necessary.
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